Are you an over thinker? Here’s how to stop
Remember this feeling?
When your mind simply produces endless thoughts about every little problem till it becomes bigger and scarier than it is?
Overthinking every positive thing that happens till it doesn’t look positive anymore. The phenomenon of overthinking is a very common and destructing thing that steals the ‘joy of living’ away from you. The inability to slow your brain down to stop the anxiety from developing can be very dangerous. It just may be the thing that’s holding you back from living the life you truly want. Life is beautiful and every moment of it is something to be enjoyed and treasured. But overanalyzing things to the point of deconstruction can steal your joy of living in the moment and enjoying it.
Of course, thinking things through and planning things can prove to be very constructive but as they say “All things should be taken in low doses”. Too much of something can be just as dangerous as too little of it.
If you want to break the cycle of overthinking and move to the other side filled with positivity then these are some of the things you can try:
1) Focus on the bigger picture
More often than not, we end up stressing over minor things or situations and it is entirely too easy to waste your entire day overthinking that one thing. So, to stop that from happening one of the first questions you should ask yourself is:
- How important is this thing going to be in the future?
- Will it have an impact on my life after 5 years; or even 5 weeks?
If not, then you should probably stop worrying about it.
When you’re stuck inside your head in yet another cycle of overthinking it can be very easy to lose sight of what’s important, and at that time if you broaden your perspective and focus on the big picture, it makes the thing you’re worried about that much smaller and unimportant.
It will allow you to divert your attention towards things that do matter.
2) Limit your decision-making time
Normally you end up thinking about one situation for long periods from every possible angle in your mind. This can be very counter-productive so instead what you can do is set a time limit.
Allow yourself to think about a particular thing or a situation and then make a decision if you need to. This will prevent you from overthinking things. Set your time limit depending upon the importance of the decision.
3) Be realistic in your expectations
It’s important to be realistic about things. You can’t completely avoid stressful days in your life, which compel you to overthink and worry but what you can do is reduce them. There are many things you can do to ensure that you aren’t setting yourself up for a day of overthinking. Let’s look at some of them:
- Start your day on a positive note that will set the tone for your entire day. Avoid letting negative thoughts and things cloud your brain.
- Take breaks in between work or important tasks to ensure that you remain sharp throughout the day.
- Reduce the amount of information that you’re taking in to avoid getting overwhelmed and stressed about things.
4) Realize that there are things you cannot control
Now, one of the reasons why we end up overthinking things maybe because we’re trying to control everything to avoid failing or making a mistake. But, accepting the fact that you may not be able to control everything is important. You must remember that stepping out of your comfort zone is a part of life and so is failing!
5) Don't get lost in vague fears.
Another thing all of us over thinkers do is fall into a trap that is brought on by some of the other vague fear in our lives. We end up making up disastrous scenarios in our minds and then worrying about it. In moments like these, it is important to ask:
What’s the worst that can happen?
Once you’ve already thought about the worst-case scenario as well as your response to that situation, you spend less time overthinking things. Even the less-likely-to-happen worse thing won’t be as bad as your worry-addled mind can perceive it to be.
6) Work out.
Working out is one of those things that can allow you to shut your thoughts off and focus solely on the exercise. This is very effective in getting rid of all those negative thoughts running inside your head.
7) Get good quality sleep.
Everyone talks about how important it is to get a good night’s sleep, but we rarely follow it. When you’re not getting enough sleep, you become vulnerable to more negative thoughts. But it is easier said than done. It can be quite tough to quiet your thoughts long enough for you to fall asleep.
Here’s what you can do to sleep better:
- Keep your bedroom nice and cool.
- If you’re a light sleeper and are woken up by the smallest of sounds then you can keep your trusty earplugs handy.
- Don’t force it. Allow yourself to get sleepy instead of forcing yourself to sleep. Wind down with additional relaxing time involving a nice bath, lighting some candles, and reading a nice book before you feel sleepy.
To summarize, Overthinking can become so common that it becomes a daily part of life taking up huge parts of our life. You just need to find out the things that work for you and stop you from falling into the endless cycle of overthinking and if you’ve read this completely then you’re already on the right track.
Remember, “If you worry about something too much before it happens, then you’re essentially putting yourself through it twice.”
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